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May
2013

Teach Not Demand

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She walked up to me smiling, “OK Mom, my room’s all done!  Come and see!”  I stepped away from my own chores and followed her bouncy little body into her room.  There she stood, grinning from ear to ear, I got her best Vanna White arm extension, followed by a wink of those big brown eyes and a merry, “Ta dah!”

I gave her that crinkled nose smile I so often do when I playfully tease and I turned to scan the room.  I was feeling very happy about what I was seeing until my scan abruptly stopped at her desk on the far right of the room.  The crinkled nose smile was replaced with a scowl and I jerked my head towards her, the disappointment in my face registered and the afore gleeful young girl slumped and said quietly, “What?”

For the next several minutes she got a “good” tongue lashing about how she did not clean her room thoroughly because she left a big pile of stuff under her desk.  I exited her room thinking I had just done some excellent teaching on work ethic.

It wasn’t until later that night that I realized the error or my ways.  That error glared at me as I was getting ready for bed – turning down the comforter, grabbing the pillows and dropping them in “their spot” on the chair.  But in the chair was a huge pile of junk, so I had to place the bedding on the floor.

That’s when the obvious flew up and smacked me in the head.  I had my own pile of stuff sitting in my room.  That I planned to get to “eventually” but for now it was just there, making a mess until I could get around to it.

How would I feel if someone berated me for that? Not too good that’s for sure.

I drew in a deep breath and recognized I owed my sweet girl and apology.

As I entered her room I found her piled up in bed, eyes affixed to a book.  She laid it down gently, looked up at me wide eyed and cheerily asked, “What’s up, Mom?”  I reminded her about our “conversation” earlier that day – that “conversation” that sounded a whole lot more like a “berating my child session” than a conversation.

I apologized to my daughter and asked her if she would forgive me. She quickly and easily did.  She went on to share with me that I indeed made her feel like a failure, when she thought she had done what I had asked.

Oh moms…take it from me – do not demand perfection, as God will quickly point out just how far you are from perfection you are yourself. Grace and understanding, while teaching your children go a lot further than demands and berating.

This mom thing…God uses to teach us who we really are, and how much we need Him.

Tracey Eyster

Tracey Eyster, is the happily in love wife of Bill and the fun-filled mom of two teens, she is devoted to her family and is happiest when making memories with them. In 2008 she took her passion for speaking into the lives of moms and created the ministry of MomLife Today. She is passionate about momlife and is amazed at God\’s blessing of allowing her first book Be The Mom to come to fruition. She enjoys connecting with moms through her personal blog at www.bethemom.com, and on Facebook or Twitter @MomBlog

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  1. Cherish Parker says:

    I find myself doing the same thing, and I am so thankful for a gracious God Who always puts me in my place and sends me back to apologize to my sweet girl as well. I’ve found myself loosening up a whole lot with each and every little lesson He teaches me with my baby girl. Thanks for sharing! You’re not alone :)