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Aug
2013

Between Two Worlds

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Each parent ultimately has a choice to make, a road to travel and that choice will have an eternal impact on our children and their faith.

As a Grace Based Parent, my wife and I have chosen to raise our children between two worlds and two extremes.  On one hand, you have the secular world with the Success Illusion and all the trappings of a fallen world.  As a Christian, it’s easy to forgo this choice and discard it.  On the other hand, you have the Christian world, which many parents take to the extreme by succumbing to fear-based parenting.  This often includes restricting any friends, music, media and social events that don’t align real well with their Christian values.  That doesn’t leave many alternatives when you factor in the reality that we’re raising our kids in a fallen and corrupted culture. What makes this even more complicated is when they let their fear become the primary motivation behind how they choose to educate their children.

However, my wife and I were not interested in raising “safe Christian kids” who have been sheltered from the world and have a difficult time relating to the lost.  We were interested in raising strong Christian kids; leaders and risk takers who are not only able to relate to their lost secular friends but show them the light and expose them to Christ.  You cannot show them the light unless you go interact with them in the dark.

So the challenge my children had to process is that they are not secular, (although they easily relate and socialize with secular kids), their spiritual convictions caused them to stand out because of their faith, values and morals.  But, they are also not sheltered Christian kids.

When my kids came back from Christian summer camp a few weeks ago, I asked them how it went.  My son’s response was “It was really great to be around normal Christian teenagers.”  When I probed him further, he said the kids at camp were like him: they’ve been raised in the world, played sports in the midst of the mainstream, had friends from all beliefs systems and backgrounds, but they all had a passionate love for Christ and strong biblical morals and values.

I’m sure there are some parents shaking their heads at me saying that this is dangerous ground to walk on so why take the chance at all?  What’s wrong with sheltering them and keeping them away from the world as long as possible?

First, research from the Barna Group and the Fuller Youth Institute illustrate that sheltering is actually developing shallow faith in our children and leading to anywhere between 70-80% of Evangelical Youth leaving church after high school.

Second, it is not Biblical.

“You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden.”  Matthew 5:14 ESV

“But the Lord said to me, “Do not say, ‘I am only a youth’; for to all to whom I send you, you shall go, and whatever I command you, you shall speak.”  Jeremiah 1:7 ESV

So, as Christians, if we truly believe and we have the Good News and the Holy Spirit on our side, what are we afraid of?

My wife and I want to raise kids who don’t just survive in the world but thrive in it and are not afraid because they have a strong biblical foundation and trust in the Lord.  We would rather raise our kids in between two worlds and have them struggle and grow in faith, while they are under our roof and guidance, then tackle it alone when they go off to college or enter the world.

You may not agree with me or think I’m crazy.  But my two teenagers have brought more kids, teens and even families to Christ in their 14 and 13 years, then most people do in a lifetime.  In this road of two extremes, we pick the third option of trusting the truth of God and the power of His Grace every time and it’s made all the difference.

 

 

 

Lance is a husband, father to two teenagers, Founder and Vision Caster of Legacy Dad Ministries and Guest Speaker for Family Matters. Lance works in Family, Youth and Teen Ministry at his local church in addition to his “day job” with the Department of Defense. Lance provides a full time “taxi service” to his teenagers and their friends while supporting their school activities, sports, youth groups, extracurriculars and social lives. Lance occasionally gets away on work release to take his wife on a date or go on a mission trip.

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