Meeting our child’s 3 Inner Needs is only possible within an atmosphere of grace. As the metaphor suggests, the atmosphere of a home, just like the atmosphere of a room or of a planet, impacts what happens within it. If our home’s atmosphere is defined by fear, it’s going to be difficult for our kids to have a sense of security or a strong hope for the future. If our home’s atmosphere is one defined by pleasing others rather than pleasing God, our kids get the sense that they are trying to earn our favor and the favor of others rather than resting securely in the unconditional love of Christ and finding their significance in serving Him.
Grace is the atmosphere within which our efforts to meet our kids three inner needs will flourish. Creating an atmosphere of grace means giving our kids four freedoms.