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Ep. 23- The Blueprint Series: POISE

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Ep. 23- The Blueprint Series: POISE

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Sometimes in parenting we need to teach the fine art of shifting gears. Poise is the keen sense of the appropriate.

Webster’s dictionary describes being poised as “marked by easy composure of manner” In other words, being comfortable in your own skin, especially when you’re challenged in a professional or social environment.

One of the most loving gifts we can present our children is the ability to respond to life in a balanced way.

A poised person has a more refined sense of internal directions. He or she is prepared in advance for shifts in circumstances or surroundings that could cause problems.

Childhood years offer many opportunities to respond to life’s ups and downs.

“Likewise, urge the younger men to be self-controlled. Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity, and sound speech that cannot be condemned, so that an opponent may be put to shame, having nothing evil to say about us.”

– Titus 2:6-8 {ESV}

Poise is a gentle strength. Parents are in the best position to observe, instruct, and evaluate their children in a loving manner.

Areas in a child’s life where a posed response could make a big difference:

-In the Emotions:

Loving parents realize its important to train children on the proper use of laughter and tears. They must help make these dimensions of their emotions friends rather than enemies. *We aren’t talking about denying their expression of emotions. We want to help them walk that fine line that separates emotional extremes.

-In Social Settings:

Social skills are one of the most obvious areas for child development.

Regardless of our economic background, we need to equip our kids to hobnob with hobos and highbrows with equal ease. We want to pass onto them the refinements that will allow them to move into any situation with confidence.

-In Sexuality:

The sexual dimension of a child’s life requires wise and prudent leadership from parents. This area has the capacity to give more joy or inflict more harm than any other part of their makeup.

If the best defense is a good offense, then one of the ways we can protect our children sexually is to prepare them to properly respond to the sexual culture around them.  *This is why we recommend parents initiating an open dialog about God’s design for sex at an early age.

We can’t guarantee our kids sexual purity, but if they are poised enough to appropriately respond to the world, we may just increase their odds.

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Karis Kimmel Murray is the author of Grace Based Discipline: How to Be at Your Best When Your Kids Are at Their Worst and the Creative Director of Family Matters®, a ministry who’s internationally hosted parenting and marriage events, radio and television broadcasts, articles, videos, website and best-selling books (written by Karis’ parents and Family Matters’ founders Dr. Tim and Darcy Kimmel,) Grace Based Parenting and Grace Filled Marriage, have been used by God to transform tens of thousands of families into instruments of His restoration and reformation.
Karis writes and speaks for Family Matters as a voice to the next generation of parents. Karis is co-host of The Family Matters Minute, a nationally syndicated one-minute radio segment heard by millions of listeners every weekday.
Karis lives in Scottsdale, Arizona with her husband Mike, their two teenage daughters and a ragamuffin menagerie of pets.