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Episode 24- The Blue Print Series: Self- Discipline

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If we want the most out of life, we must realize there are no short-cuts around self-discipline.

Self-discipline helps children live up to their potential, their gifts and their capabilities. Dreams more frequently come true for children who sees that discipline consistently pays off.

Principle #1: Delayed gratification

A commitment to delayed gratification, instilled in the early years can keep our kids from succumbing to illicit sex for a lifelong marriage partner, it will prepare our kids for the long days of college when they have to forego sleep and money to get the degree they need, it will help them accept an entry level job in order to earn their way up the ladder and it will help them from becoming slaves to a credit card.

Principle #2: Advanced Decision Making

Many battles in our lives (and our kids lives) are either won or lost before we ever enter the battlefield.

Our kids won’t win the battle with passion while in the back seat of a car, we won’t maintain healthy bodies without making some decisions in advance.

Principle #3: A Focused Goal

A focused goal answers the question WHY? Children want to know why discipline is necessary- what’s in it for them. One of these big reasons is to avoid the other kind of discipline. The practiced life of discipline must come from motivations rooted deep in the soul.

Listen to Paul’s advice in 1 Corinthians 9: 24-27 (see if you can pick up on his focused goal, advanced decision making and delayed gratification)

24 Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize. 25 Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever. 26 Therefore I do not run like someone running aimlessly; I do not fight like a boxer beating the air. 27 No, I strike a blow to my body and make it my slave so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified for the prize.

Our children are a big enough WHY for us. They are worth the exasperation, the sweat and heartache. It’s worth it to develop self-discipline in their lives.

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Karis Kimmel Murray is the author of Grace Based Discipline: How to Be at Your Best When Your Kids Are at Their Worst and the Creative Director of Family Matters®, a ministry who’s internationally hosted parenting and marriage events, radio and television broadcasts, articles, videos, website and best-selling books (written by Karis’ parents and Family Matters’ founders Dr. Tim and Darcy Kimmel,) Grace Based Parenting and Grace Filled Marriage, have been used by God to transform tens of thousands of families into instruments of His restoration and reformation.
Karis writes and speaks for Family Matters as a voice to the next generation of parents. Karis is co-host of The Family Matters Minute, a nationally syndicated one-minute radio segment heard by millions of listeners every weekday.
Karis lives in Scottsdale, Arizona with her husband Mike, their two teenage daughters and a ragamuffin menagerie of pets.