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Episode 20 – Grief During Pandemic

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Episode 20 – Grief During Pandemic

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We are all in an emotional purgatory…and all may experience:

  1. Loss of normalcy (regular life)
  2. Loss of jobs, school, vacation, graduations
  3. Loss of a loved one
  4. Anticipatory Grief (Matt 6: Do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself.

Here’s the article that inspired this episode.

Psychiatrist Elisabeth-Kubler Ross and Dr. David Kessler wrote “On Grief and Grieving- the 5 Stages of Grief

The 5 stages of grief are:

Denial- Anger- Bargaining- Depression- Acceptance

They are tools to help us frame and identify what we may be feeling. But they are not stops on some linear timeline in grief. Not everyone goes through all of them or in a prescribed order. 

Here’s Dr. Kessler’s newest book, “Finding Meaning- The 6th Stage of Grief”

Here’s the article by N.T. Wright about the Biblical tradition of “lament.”

Biblical tradition of lament – Lament is what happens when people ask “why” and don’t get an answer when we look broadly at the suffering of the world.

Lamenting in the Bible- Psalmist “Why do you stand far off Lord?” “How long oh Lord?”

The point of lament is it’s not just an outlet for sorrow or frustration. God also laments. God grieved in Genesis, he was devastated when Israel turned against him and Jesus wept at the tomb of a friend.

“As the spirit laments we become small shrines where the presence and healing love of God can dwell.” N.T. Wright

For those of you experiencing loneliness– solitary life is right where we can find Jesus. Jesus didn’t fear isolation but looked to it for peace and renewal. Lingering loneliness reflects a deep longing for communion- that will only be satisfied when we see Jesus face to face. Heb. 13:5 “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”

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Karis Kimmel Murray is the author of Grace Based Discipline: How to Be at Your Best When Your Kids Are at Their Worst and the Creative Director of Family Matters®, a ministry who’s internationally hosted parenting and marriage events, radio and television broadcasts, articles, videos, website and best-selling books (written by Karis’ parents and Family Matters’ founders Dr. Tim and Darcy Kimmel,) Grace Based Parenting and Grace Filled Marriage, have been used by God to transform tens of thousands of families into instruments of His restoration and reformation.
Karis writes and speaks for Family Matters as a voice to the next generation of parents. Karis is co-host of The Family Matters Minute, a nationally syndicated one-minute radio segment heard by millions of listeners every weekday.
Karis lives in Scottsdale, Arizona with her husband Mike, their two teenage daughters and a ragamuffin menagerie of pets.