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Podcast Ep. 6- Lessons for Parents to Learn this School Year
Grace Based Families

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Here’s a snippet of some lessons we’ve learned about our kids going back to school, stuff we wish we had known earlier.  We learned some of these lessons the hard way, so you don’t have to . . .

Lesson 1.- Your kids can get a bad teacher at an awesome school.  (And by the same token they can get an awesome teacher at a bad school.)  Of course, it’s a definite red flag if the good isn’t outweighing the bad.  But a year with a difficult, harsh, incompetent, unkind (insert your choice of undesirable qualities here) teacher doesn’t have to be a waste of a year.  They overcame.  They persevered.  Reading, writing, and arithmetic aren’t the only things in life worth learning.

Lesson 2.- Your kids need to learn to manage their own friendships.  Especially when problems arise.  You can give them wise input.  You can stay in communication with them about how things are progressing. 

Lesson 3.- Your kids might be bothered. It doesn’t mean they are being bullied. We use that term entirely too recklessly in today’s world.  A mean word isn’t bullying.  Being excluded from a birthday party isn’t bullying.  Bullying involves an intent to harm, an imbalance of power, and repeated acts or threats of aggressive behavior.  Our kids need us to help them have the confidence and character to live in a world that won’t always be on their side.

Lesson 4.- Your kids will fail. In academics.  In relationships.  In their behavior.  Sometimes in all these areas, all in one day.  If there are difficult natural consequences to their choices, don’t stand in the way.  You’ll want to.  Really badly. Sometimes you will. Don’t make it a habit.  A poor grade in math won’t define them.  Failure is an exceptional teacher.  We parents know this to be true.  Because we have experienced failure.

These school years are full of wonderful joy and great growth for our kids and for us.  They also bring heartache and sleepless nights – for our kids and for us.  But the best lesson we can learn is that all the hard stuff is just a wonderful excuse to be on our knees in dependence to a big God who has been with us through it all.

Resources and Links:

-To learn more about building character into your kids’ hearts, both online and offline, check out Dr. Tim Kimmel’s book, Raising Kids for True Greatness.

-Read the blog post that inspired this episode.

-For more information about Family Matters, go to

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Karis Kimmel Murray is the author of Grace Based Discipline: How to Be at Your Best When Your Kids Are at Their Worst and the Creative Director of Family Matters®, a ministry who’s internationally hosted parenting and marriage events, radio and television broadcasts, articles, videos, website and best-selling books (written by Karis’ parents and Family Matters’ founders Dr. Tim and Darcy Kimmel,) Grace Based Parenting and Grace Filled Marriage, have been used by God to transform tens of thousands of families into instruments of His restoration and reformation.
Karis writes and speaks for Family Matters as a voice to the next generation of parents. Karis is co-host of The Family Matters Minute, a nationally syndicated one-minute radio segment heard by millions of listeners every weekday.
Karis lives in Scottsdale, Arizona with her husband Mike, their two teenage daughters and a ragamuffin menagerie of pets.